Well Who Am I? That's a question I'm still trying figure out myself. To start this My name is Douglas I'm 22 years of age. This is my 1st semester and I am majoring Liberal Art for now. The person I am today I have to thanks my mom, she was a single parent raising two kids. At the age 13 she sent me to Virginia to live with my sister's mother because she thought I'll be better off out there. From the age 13-18 I can honestly say I raise myself, not saying my step mother didn't love me but she sure had a funny way of showing it. While I was out in VA I had to learn how to be a man being that my father really wasn't in my life, but that's a whole other story. Growing up in school I always felt the need to be accepted being I always felt rejected by my family. After I graduated from high school I ended up moving back to NYC with my mother. Our relationship was so different being I grew up resented her for sending me away so I was very rebellious toward her which ended up with her kicking me out and that where I move from place to place with different family members but it never worked out. At 21 I decided to enrolled myself into Job Corps which was truly a life changing experience. I started to see how ungrateful I was, there are people in this world with way biggest problems and yet I always found a reason to complain about my life. My biggest influences in my life is my father. I say he's my biggest influences because he is somebody I never want to be like, he's extremely selfish his happiness always came first no matter how bad it affected his kids so because of him i feel like this is why I'm pushing myself to become something in life. My goals in life is to become an child or adolescent therapist or counselor . I want to give advice build self-esteem and help broken children see their worth in society. I want to be that help I never got growing up, I feel in the end that what we all want is for somebody to listen and guide us in this crazy world.
Reading your post made me to reflect about the significant influence that our family has on our individual lives and self-concept. Being born into the world, we depend on one another. Our parents and family, or those who can provide us care do influence how perceive ourselves and their personal choices directly affect us. I wondered if you have ever thought about any major force or circumstance in your mother’s social condition that could have led her to send you away, maybe even against her own desire. As you said others may have to face problems due to social conditions such as lack of financial resources that their options are constrained to the social system. Sometimes when we judge someone's behaviors, we have to consider the major forces and influences in their life. Thank you for sharing your personal experiences, It is amazing to see that we can indeed overcome our difficulties, and despite of the circumstances we may have to face in life, we can push ourselves to improve ourselves, the condition of our lives, and those of others.
ReplyDeleteAfter, reading what you had to say about who you are, really made me realize, that I don't know who i am either. Actually to think of it, none of us does yet in life, we are still going through issues in our life. There will always be dramas that makes us stronger in life or make us realize what life is about. I actually agree with you on everything you said, this is a crazy world, and trust me your not the only one who grew up with difficulties. We all have struggles in life, that's what makes us who are now, and that's what made us stronger as young adults. I see how your biggest influence is a big impact in your life, in my position its the opposite even though i grew up with almost the same parents as yours, i still see my mom as my biggest influence because she was there my whole life until now. I hope you really get what you want in life, and I hope all your goals come true.
ReplyDeleteI cant say I know how it feels to resent their parents because I dont. But you have more than enough reasons to. Some people would just blame their parents for their failures and use that as an excuse to do poorly in life.But you've chosen another way to handle your problems. Even though your father wasnt in your life you use him as an inspiration to never be like him. I applaud you for that. Were all trying to find our place in this world. Its a good thing you didnt get down on yourself because of your past experiences. Were all dealt different hands in life, its how you play your hand that determines your success.
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ReplyDeleteI really like your blog. I think your story tells a lot about your connection. I wish that you would have put more of the content material in the blog. Nice design. Why is Kim and Kanye plastered all over your page. What does this say about you?
Doug , this was a great blog, you were honest about your life, and we definitely can relate with some situations. all those experiences can only make you stronger, i know that you will be capable of not only changing your life for the better but change other people's as well. and i got you bro ima hit ya on the IG
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